Jacqueline, good advisor: “The best thing is when parents and children after a while say, ‘We don’t have that many questions anymore'”

Jacqueline Prins has her own practice MiraMé in Ede and works as a youth help for talented people. She guides families with a gifted child. “Giftedness is often seen as something elitist, but as a gifted person you are not always successful and you can not do everything without effort.”

Jacqueline’s interest in giftedness arose after the birth of her eldest daughter. “I quickly noticed that she was not a typical baby. She seemed bored in the box, cried a lot, wanted a lot of attention and was often very awake and attentive. My concerns were not taken seriously at the hearing office. Eventually, it first became clear in Group 5 that my daughter is unusually gifted. Then the penny fell with me, I am also highly gifted. ”

“In the years that followed, I worked as a volunteer in families where it was difficult. I would be there for moms who felt misunderstood. I had felt misunderstood for so long and I wanted to save others from seeking or at least helping them with it. Eventually, I retrained radically. I came from technical sciences and went on to do post-graduate family counseling. In addition, I was always busy reading and learning more about talent. ”

To observe

Jacqueline has had her own practice since 2012. In her work, she finds it very important to help the family as a whole and not just the gifted child. “I monitor a gifted child’s growth process. The child often encounters all sorts of things, develops differently, has difficulty connecting with peers and so on. The social services often look at a gifted child in the school system. I really look at the family and everything. “It comes with life, through the glasses of giftedness. It is also often difficult for parents, they usually have no other parents to spar with about their gifted child.”

“When I come into a family, I first observe a lot. I watch during daily activities, but also at school or during sports. I look at how they communicate with each other in the family and where it rubs off. In this way, an image of the child is created more and more. Then I will think along and look for guidelines. I look at what suits the family and what their qualities are. That’s why I like to visit people’s homes so I can get in touch with them best, ”says Jacqueline.

Part of the large collection of games on Jacqueline’s play loft. Photo: Eline van Noppen

Autonomy

“The best thing is when parents and children after a while say: ‘We do not have so many questions anymore’. They see it together again! When I come, the gifted child often feels discouraged and has an idea that he or she is not okay. Or the thought that it is because of the environment that he or she is not feeling well. The parents often work hard to resolve issues for the gifted child. Families are sometimes knocked out by the setbacks. Then I help them regain control. Gifted children often have great potential and a huge need for autonomy, in addition they are really good at coming up with solutions. I try to encourage that. For example, in school, does the child have too little challenge? Then we think about how the child himself can create an extra challenge. In this way, the gifted child flourishes again and the family begins to sparkle again. ”

legeloft

Every week on Wednesday afternoon, Jacqueline arranges the ‘Play Loft’. A ceiling filled with challenging games and activities where talented children play together. “The children do not necessarily play very difficult games, it can also just be Monopoly. The most important thing is how they play with each other and that they understand each other. I liked best when I heard a boy say to another, ‘You laugh at my joke!’ That is exactly what the Speelzolderen is intended for, that you get that recognition and that you can form a balanced image of yourself, “says Jacqueline.

Jacqueline is happy that there is more and more attention being paid to children and young people who are gifted. “We come from a time when the primary thing was to have bread on the shelf. Now there is more and more room for mental well-being and to look at how someone really feels. More and more is known about giftedness. Fortunately, the idea that the gifted ‘will get there by themselves’ is outdated. In addition, people can now also know more that there is so much information available. It helps to understand yourself and your child better. ”

taboo atmosphere

“Giftedness is often seen as something elitist, but as a gifted person you are not always successful, and you cannot do everything without effort. You are often not equally well developed in all areas. In the future, I hope that giftedness will increasingly come out of the taboo sphere. And that talented people dare to come out, to others and to themselves “, Jacqueline concludes.

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