This is how it is now with Volcmar and Marlies: ‘Our children are not allowed to be in rooms for the time being’

That the five children are very flexible when it comes to sleep is actually a gift in itself. There are lots of families where it is not a sustainable situation. But especially around a certain age, it’s nice to have their own place, which is why Volcmar and Marlies were looking for a larger house with exactly six bedrooms.

And it turns out to be a difficult requirement, for they encounter few houses with so many bedrooms. What made it even harder was the search area. Twenty minutes by bike from their father was the maximum distance. They really wanted it to be easy for them to visit both parents.

When the kids almost give up on you

Volcmar and Marlies were not very busy. They checked Funda now and then, but not every day. It is not possible with two busy jobs and a cozy family. But as they all sat in front of the television and watched Buy without watching passing, the kids shouted why do not you give up on us’† And so they decided to go for it. We talked to them about this exciting adventure. How did they experience it, and how do they feel now?

Volcmar: “We were away for a weekend and talked about it. Then we googled and came across the registration form. It was a bit exciting, but we also thought ‘we’re going crazy’. We actually did not expect that we would be able to get through it, but the help was really welcome. “

“We were looking for houses, but it also takes a lot of time. Search online, make appointments and schedule impressions. It is not so easy with a busy family and two jobs “, adds Marlies. Volcmar: “When you do, you have to do it right. I really enjoy renovating, but you have to have time for it, and we do not really have that.”

So many rooms

Marlies: “I think we looked at five houses in a year and a half. The offer was very small and so was the area we were looking for. But we did not want to deviate from that, because everything had to be within cycling distance for the children. We think that is the most important thing. A lovely house, a lovely neighborhood and within cycling distance to their father, school and friends. ”

“Often we were also a little discouraged by the broker,” Volcmar continues. if he already says ‘Oh, six bedrooms, that’s a lot’, then you do not really trust it. We were hoping that Alex could dive deeper into it. “

Everything for the kids

What is so beautiful about this loving couple is that they take on this adventure primarily for the kids. That they all get their own room is first priority.

Marlies: “We are happy for a little and can be happy everywhere. We can quickly make something our place and create a wonderful home. ” “Now that we’re in the house, we can see how important this was to them,” Volcmar adds.

Long wait for a house

We jumped a little further with the last quote, but let’s look back first. For it only becomes seriously clear that the process in the program has taken a long time when they are still not in it a year later for Christmas.

Volcmar: “We registered in October 2020 and then recorded a Christmas video where the children state that it is the last Christmas in the house. At first we did not expect that we had not moved another year later.”

Marlies: “But we did not worry about that either.”

After eight months of waiting …

Finally, in July 2021, Martijn came up with the redeeming word: a house had been found and bought, hurray! “We were so happy and we liked it right away,” Marlies says. “We really did not expect it. I had simply skipped that house over in my head – after the puzzle.

“During the puzzle, I mainly thought ‘nice house, but it will not be’ “, adds Volcmar. Marlies: “It was mainly due to the size, and because the house is on a corner. And then the porch around it. This one fell off for me right away because I thought it would be too expensive. “

“When we first really got into it, when we knew this was our home, we were so happy! Especially from the children’s eyes. The closer to their surroundings, the better,” says Marlies. This house is not even 800 meters from their old house.

Volcmar: “I thought mostly FANTASTIC. But also ‘how† kept going through my head. All the things we missed during the concession deal with ‘not necessarily necessary’, was in this house anyway. We talked a lot about feeling free and also showed pictures of how we imagine it. This house has it all. It seems so difficult for the team behind Buying Without Watching because one often buys a house based on emotion. They really saw and listened to that ‘.

“The feeling of freedom is wonderful,” Marlies adds. “We also hoped that it would be a place where the children could go outside without looking too much at it. Environmental safety was important to us, and you experience that very well here. ”


The renovation eventually took another six months, and in January it was finally time! The family lived in a cottage for another three weeks and during the episode they were still celebrating Christmas in the old house. This time really for the last time.

Volcmar: “It was very surreal to step into your new home this way, but also really fun. It’s weird that you did nothing. Usually you paint some, hang some and put things in there. That, of course, was not the case now. The realization that it was ours only came after a few days. ”

Marlies: “The kids were not at the unveiling because it was virtually impossible to get them together at that time. We thought it was very important that they got to see the new house at the same time, so they came later. I also wanted to pick them up right after the team was gone. So we could show the house. ”

“We made the unveiling with the kids the same way we did with us,” Volcmar continues. In addition, the person whose room was the first to look and open the door. They were ecstatic. “

Marlies: “You could also see which room belonged to whom. Rose is doing so well. She was fully aware of the children’s moodboards. ”

Waking up in your new home

And then wake up in a dream of a house. It must be special. Marlies agrees: “We were still a bit hyper and did not sleep very well either. The kids did not sleep there the first night and it felt empty. But you also sleep in a new bed with a new duvet in a new house. ” “You’re so ‘on’ to process everything, ”adds Volcmar. “Yes, I would actually have assessed it differently,” Marlies continues. “Lay me down somewhere, and I’m fine with that, as long as it’s good for the kids. Still, I really had to get used to it. It did not take very long. When the family was done, it felt good. ”

But what if the first ones move into rooms?

“We can not, we just keep them here,” jokes Volcmar. “Exactly! Now that they all have their own room, they must not go. Fortunately, they will also stay for a while,” Marlies says relieved. “Of course, they are allowed to stay in their rooms when the time comes. If the elder really “We have a study or a music room for Volcmar. It is also a new luxury.”

It can be a mess

One can see and hear that the couple is very grateful. They have lived there for a little over six months and have not changed much, if at all. It just feels good.

Marlies: “We have changed or adapted very little. We have added a few things. We still lacked a little closet space here and there. And of course it is no longer as nice as it was during delivery. But it can also be a little ‘a mess’ that suits us. We hang up the things you get on Mother’s Day or that are made at school. It also makes the house more personal. ”

Volcmar: “What we like about the house is that everything is a whole. What Roos has chosen really fits together. It’s a unit. We could not have done that ourselves. We do not care, and we are not aware of it. We would not have made or dared all the walls in one color and I am sure we would also choose the wrong color. The children also enjoy it very much. ”

“It is true!” Marlies agrees. “As soon as we consider doing something else, the kids are already shouting ‘No, do not, it’s at least beautiful now’.

“We never leave”

Despite the fact that the new house is 800 meters from the old one, Volcmar and Marlies were not familiar with the area. It therefore feels like a new place and a new village, while in practice it is not so bad. They like that. There are new things and places to discover and they are having a great time.

Marlies: “We are not leaving anymore. I also did not want to know why. “” Well, of course you never know how it will end, but the intention is certainly not there, “Volcmar adds.

Marlies also says that she has absolutely no regrets about their participation: “We are extremely grateful for this beautiful place. We would also like to say this to Bob, Alex and Roos. You will only know how happy you are after a few days and we are very happy here! “

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