They swiped for the right one: ‘I was on Tinder for a day, you’re not making that up, are you?’

‘I knew: I should see this man more often’

A day on Tinder brought Renate Memelink (51) together eight years ago with Richard (53), whom she still knew from childhood.

“A friend of mine had heard great things about Tinder, so she wanted to try it out for herself. It didn’t seem like the right thing for me; I’d just been single for six weeks after my relationship ended suddenly and really wasn’t ready for anything. But when my friend couldn’t create a profile, I showed it to her, I deleted the app the same day, but in the meantime, an old school friend had already seen my profile.

He sent me a message via Messenger if I would like to come and have a cup of tea with him. After several years of travel, he was back in the Netherlands. Nice, I thought, catching up with someone from the past. I seem to have asked what kind of date it was, to which he would have replied that he thought I was a very nice woman. He said he had been very clear about it. But I’ve never read that.”

“I went into the first ‘date’ very uninhibited. Afterwards I think it was very good, because if you are very nervous, you will behave differently. Now I was completely myself. We had a very pleasant conversation, we clicked, it turned out. to have the same interests. It still didn’t occur to me that it could possibly be more than just a cozy get-together. I remember at one point he came to sit very close to me, and I thought: what do you want from me? Now we can laugh about it.”

almost magical

When I went home after a few hours, I asked if I could give him a hug. That hug changed everything. During that brief embrace, I became all warm inside. Wow, what is this, I thought. I exclaimed that too. He also sensed that something special was happening. It was almost magical. I knew: I should see this man more often.”

“A week later we met again and we’ve been together ever since. He moved in with me three years ago. He had said from the start that he never wanted to live together again, so I had already resigned that it was t possible, but suddenly he announced that he wanted to put his apartment up for sale and come and live with me.

My mom used to say that you have to keep working at a relationship. Richard taught me that this is not necessarily the case. Of course we sometimes have conflicts, it doesn’t really happen automatically, but we can communicate so well that it never becomes difficult.’

No coincidence, intention

“Richard is the love of my life. I was always looking for a man who made me feel that way. It took me a little patience, but it paid off. Looking back on our lives, we both say that’s how here had to go. We hadn’t been ready for each other before. We knew each other in high school, but we had little contact. There had to be time in between to live our own lives and finally find each other at the right time.

If he hadn’t seen me on Tinder that day, he would never have known I was single, and he would never have approached me. I don’t believe in coincidences. This was certainly the intention. One day on Tinder, you don’t make it up, do you?”

‘After 24 hours I knew she was the woman of my life’

Harald Kor (46) and Inge Kor-Bekker (41) met each other four years ago through Tinder. Neither of them were looking for love, but after that first wild night, they were so blown away by each other that they couldn’t help but notice.

Harold: ‘I came from a relationship that gave me two daughters (7 and 9). I certainly wasn’t looking for a new relationship. Straightforward fun, that’s why I was on Tinder. And that’s what I found too. Until I came into contact with Inge’.

Inge: “It was the same for me. I had been single for almost ten years and I really liked it. Just before I met Harald, I even planned to become a mother alone with a sperm donor. And then I matched Harald on Tinder…’

Harold: ‘We were immediately very open about our intentions: we agreed on ‘the fun’, that’s all. After a week of texting back and forth, we met.’

Inge: “He came late at night from Woerden to my house in Zwolle, where I was still living at the time. That night was so special. Harald stayed overnight and we didn’t leave the bedroom for 24 hours. We couldn’t stop talking.’

Harold: ‘We turned out to have a lot in common. It was a bit like coming home’.

Inge: ‘Yes, that, immediately very nice and safe. I liked many more that night, but that click knocked me out. When he left we were both sad. It wasn’t meant to be. It felt so special what happened. It was almost too good to be true.’

Harold: “We both didn’t want a relationship, but we also felt that connection between us was too special to ignore. I was a hotel guest. I remember well the next morning I wanted to tell her that I loved her. I said: I feel something but I really can’t say it because it doesn’t make sense. I tried to deny it to myself. But actually after the 24 hours it was already clear to me that this was the woman in my life, how crazy than sounds.’

Inge: ‘I felt the same. I had seen many men before, some more serious than others, but this had never happened to me before. It felt so fundamentally different from anything I had ever felt before. I was completely blown away’.

Inge: ‘From that moment we called each other every day and texted all day long. Although we found it exciting, we went all out. We could only see each other again two weeks later, because in the meantime Harald had his daughters.’

Harold: “To me, they were the most important thing in all of this. I stood like a lion in front of my cubs. I wouldn’t let those girls meet just anyone, it had to be really good for that. In the end it was almost a year before they met Inge. We introduced her very gradually.’

Inge: “Yes, we followed their pace in that. We also needed time to get used to it. I was devoted to Zwolle, Harald to his own life and liberty.’

Harold: “We only took the next step when the girls themselves asked two years ago why Inge didn’t come and live with us. They asked her themselves’.

Inge: ‘We both found it very exciting. But we also said that to each other, and we deliberately took our time. Half a year later I moved in with Harald.’

Harold: ‘I have always said that I never wanted to get married, but with Inge it suddenly felt like a logical step. I asked her with my daughters.’

Inge: “Our wedding day last year was nothing but love. Single friends regularly say to me: I so want what you have. It also feels very special. What we have is unique, but I hope many couples have that way. It’s love, you really wish it for everyone.’

Harold: ‘I also said that at the wedding: I wish everyone an Inge, but fortunately I have the only Inge Bekker.’

Inge: “You see, don’t give up on Tinder. One day you’ll get lucky.’

‘Soon we will get married in Naples’

Annemarie Frederiks (54) met her Italian dream man Salvatore (57) nine years ago through Tinder.

“A man close to me said: Tinder, you should try it. He had already taken many women from there. I didn’t know if I was waiting for it, but it made me curious. In most matches it remained during a pleasant chat conversation, one of them stalled.

First I fell for Salvatore’s eyes. Very dark brown, with a somewhat shy appearance. On such a dating app, you are primarily dependent on looks; you don’t have much more than that. We matched and he spoke to me in English. He sent that he was Italian and just wanted to have a nice chat. Well, he came to the right place for that. I couldn’t easily date at that time because I was at home taking care of my father who had just had surgery. So it was just chatting at first. We had whole conversations and our attention for each other didn’t go away.”

“We didn’t meet for the first time until six weeks later. It was a brief coffee date at Starbucks. I wasn’t nervous, he was. When I saw him approaching, I immediately thought: this could turn out to be something Nice guy, beautiful nose, good looks. It was that I had to go home in an hour or I would have stayed there all afternoon. It felt very good.”

Teenager in love

“Not long after, he invited me to a luxurious lunch. After that lunch, I knew: this is him. He thought the same. Immediately after that, we both deleted our Tinder profile. I felt like a teenager in love again, I had so many butterflies in my stomach. We had many pleasant dates and got to know each other better and better. At one point he also met my son, who is now 25.”

“Everything was so easy and relaxed. The only thing we sometimes come across are small cultural differences. Until recently, for example, I didn’t know that Italians only light candles when someone has died. It turned out that I gave his sister a beautiful light as a gift. not such a good idea. And never change anything about an Italian recipe! We can often only laugh at the little things. Salvatore speaks fluent Dutch, only texts and emails we still do in English for some reason.

I have been living with him since 2016. We will soon get married in his hometown of Naples. I would like to experience such an Italian wedding. Long tables, eternal food, rolling home. I am very grateful for Tinder. I never expected something so beautiful to come out of a dating app. Certainly not at our age. I was lucky. Everything is right. I’ve never been so happy.”

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