Van de G. on the relationship with Esmee: “Coal is possible, but no one should know”

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“You can snuggle. But really no one, no one, should know”, reads one of the messages from Olivier van de G. (33) to 14-year-old Esmee. Her lifeless body was found on New Year’s Eve in a park near Melchior Treublaan in Leiden. Her gym teacher, 33-year-old Van de G., was arrested the same day. The two appeared to have dated each other for a long time, including sexually. Van de G. is suspected of strangling the teenager and is accused of fornication. The case will be heard on Monday. The prosecution will then announce the verdict.

“I really don’t know anymore”, says 33-year-old Olivier van de G., crying in court on Monday, when the judge asks about the moment when 14-year-old Esmee died. The last thing he remembers is sitting on her and seeing her appearance, says Van de G. “The first thing I remember after that was a feeling in my forearm, a cramp and wetness in my leg. Esmee lay with her back against my stomach. And I had my arm around her neck. I felt her neck to see if I could find a heartbeat, but there wasn’t,” sobbed Van de G. “I started to panic more and more.”

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Arguing is more common, the supposed gym teacher believes. As also on December 30. As is often the case, Esmee and Van De G. ‘play’ with each other after the argument. “To get rid of anger and rage or to calm an argument. Only it didn’t happen this time,’ says Van de G. emotionally. The race gets out of hand. “I got her off the bed and onto the floor through a kind of judo-like movement, and then we ended up on the floor together. I didn’t want to hurt her.” Esmee then lies on her back, Van de G. sits on her. “I saw anger, fierceness and hatred in her eyes that I had never seen in her before.”

Clear tracks
After Van de G. finds out that Esmee is dead, he tries to erase as many traces of the relationship as possible, says the suspect. He picks up her bike and rides her to the park at Melchior Treublaan in Leiden, then leaves her here. He throws her phone into the water and goes home himself. Here he also decides to erase as many traces as possible.

Esmee’s body is discovered on New Year’s Eve by a woman walking her dog in a park near Melchior Treublaan in Leiden. She then turns to a group of athletes, after which one of them takes a closer look. Her lifeless body rests against a tree. The teenager from Hazerswoude-Rijndijk was reported missing by his parents on Thursday evening, December 30, around midnight. The day Esmee’s body is found, her Leiden gym teacher Van de G. is immediately arrested.

Suspected of fornication
In addition to strangling Esmee, Van de G. is also suspected of fornication. Police eventually find about 275 child porn files on his phone and laptop. The suspect says he gets to know Esmee when he is interning at her school. At the time, Esmee is in grade 8. Van de G. goes to camp, after which Esmee adds him on social media, according to Van de G.. She is 12 years old at the time. “In the beginning, she would often send ‘hello’ or ‘hello’ short messages that were really about nothing,” the suspect says of the start of their contact.

“Then she sent invitations to live broadcasts on Instagram and asked if I wanted to join. At first I declined, but she kept asking repeatedly. At one point I looked.” Then there were more conversations, says Van de G. “We talked about how stupid she thought school was, or about problems she had in class. Arguments with girlfriends, boys, teenage problems. Sometimes was just listening, sometimes I also gave advice on how to deal with it.”

Shared more emotions
Later, Esmee would become more open and share more feelings. “She talked about problems in her life situation. It felt like a natural result of the previous conversations.” Esmee would then have gone to special education. “Did you think, hey, this is a kid with extra problems?” asks the judge. “I didn’t have that idea,” says Van de G.

After this, the two would also have agreed a number of times, and Esmee develops feelings for him, according to Van de G.. “I didn’t know that at first. She said she liked a boy, but she didn’t know how to tell him. Later I found out she was talking about me and she had expressed her feelings.”

To distance yourself?
“Wasn’t it time to distance yourself?” asks the judge. “Yes…”, says Van de G. “At that moment I thought about maintaining that contact.” It just won’t stop talking. Soon the two are hugging. ‘You can putt. But really nobody, absolutely nobody, should know,’ reads a message Van de G. sent to Esmee, according to phone records.

Soon after, a hug follows a kiss on the mouth. According to Van de G., there is also love on his part for her. Eventually, the two also have a sexual relationship. “It has been built up over a long period of time. We have talked about such things. I said that she had to indicate whether she wanted to continue and that she had to speak up if she didn’t want anything,’ says Van de G. about it. According to the judge, Esmee becomes more gloomy after this and she suffers more problems. She would also be worried about Van de G., who herself feels lonely during the corona period and is also gloomy. According to Van de G., Esmee sometimes threatened to reveal the relationship. “But it turned out that she threatened me with it if I didn’t react, in order to provoke a reaction. The first time I was very shocked, but then I knew why she said that.”

Search for help
The judge: “Didn’t you think for a second that this is going to be very intense? I need help?” “Yes, but then the relationship would also become known”, replies Van de G. “I had no idea how it was going to continue or how I was going to complete it. In difficult moments, I tried to go back to moments in the beginning when it was fun.”


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