Why is one always late and the other always on time?

We all know that one friend or family member who is always late. Very annoying for you, but also for him or her. They cannot always do anything about it themselves. We explain what is going on.

Research American psychologist

Numerous studies have been conducted on why someone is structurally retarded. And the result is also different. Search is based on a study conducted by American psychologist Jeff Conte. He divides people into 2 groups: polychronic and monochronic. Polychrons prefer to do several things at the same time, monochrons prefer to work on 1 task at a time and only start something new when it is 1e is finished.

It also means being on time. Monochrons observe the so-called clock time, says the psychologist. So they always arrive on time. Polychrons are the latecomers. They keep more of an estimate of time, he also calls it event time.

English research

People who arrive late cannot always be described as chaotic, disorganized or rude, shows an English study where RTL News writing about. “We also need to look at the brains of the laggards,” British researcher Harriet Mellotte told the BBC. Another English researcher, Diana DeLonzor, explains that people who often fail to arrive on time actually assume they are late. This can be the result of psychological problems such as anticipation. “Because of fear, they put off the job or the deal so often that they don’t get it done on time,” says DeLonzor.

There are also people who are not good at estimating time. For example, how long it takes him or her to drive from home to work, or how much time someone actually needs to go out the door. Think about putting on shoes, putting on a coat, maybe going to the bathroom and saying hello to any housemates. It has a scientific name, planning error. These people simply fail to estimate how long something will take.

Consequences of being late

However, notorious latecomers can be on time in some cases. For example, think of a plane that needs to be caught and not waiting. Or in some cases also a wedding or a funeral of a special person. So it often works. According to Grace Pacie, author of a book about latecomers, this has to do with moments of confrontation. “We can be on time if it matters. As soon as there are consequences associated with being late, such as missing a flight, we are more aware of the time,” writes Men’s health. “As soon as those consequences disappear, we also quickly fall into the habit of being late. This is seen, for example, in social situations, where it is less bad to be late. That’s why some friends tend to be late for parties or gatherings, but less so at work.”

7 types of latecomers

According to Psychology Magazine there are different types of latecomers. They mention 7 different types, of which true latecomers may recognize themselves in several types. It’s about apologists, regulators, deadline surfers, hedonists, rebels, absentee professors and dodgers. In other words: people who always have an excuse for everything, do many things at once, plan and finish everything at the last minute, don’t want to make sacrifices, don’t want to follow society’s rules, are easily distracted or scared, and have a bad self image to have.

Tips for dealing with others who are late

There are tips for those who are easily annoyed by others who are late. As can be read above, it is not always something someone can do to be late. It is often unconscious and the other person does not want to waste your time. So don’t take it personally if someone is late. Also tell the person if you are bothered by being late. You can also assign consequences by agreeing to wait a certain number of minutes and then leaving if the person isn’t there.

What can also work well is to compliment the person if they manage to be on time. And be patient too. If someone wants to change their behavior, it takes time. If it really doesn’t work, you can also cheat with the start time. Assume someone is 15 minutes late by default, approve that time earlier. This way you don’t have to wait unnecessarily long and the other person is ‘on time’.

(Source: Quest, RTL Nieuws, Men’s Health, Psychologie Magazine. Photo: Shutterstock)

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