Do we still have the same in-laws?

Once there were two identical twins. Wouldn’t it be fun, Cupid thought, if they became two sets? And then it happened. This year, all at the age of 27, Lonneke married Sonny and Romy married Jordi. “Suddenly they dropped to one knee at the same time.”

Special tape

Romy: “Lonneke and I have a special bond. We are monogamous. You will notice that it is closer with us than between other brothers and sisters. We often think alike. Sometimes I write a message to Lonneke, and she writes me exactly the same.”
Lonneke: “Now we look less like each other than before, I have glasses and a different hair colour. But as a child, people had a hard time telling us apart. Yes, we abused that sometimes. For example, if I had studied better for a test than Romy, I would sit in her place to take that test.”
Romy: “Lonneke also got my moped driving licence. I had quite a lot of fear of failing and she already had that. I took my driving license myself – I didn’t dare, you just have to be good at driving. Sometimes we feel things about each other too. Sometimes I think: there is something about Lonneke. Then I feel my heart beating all the way. Then I call her and she turns out not to be well. We also think that is special, as if we have a kind of telepathy with each other. If we go shopping separately, we often come home with exactly the same thing. And once we had put on exactly the same thing for Christmas dinner.”

The spark jumps

Lonneke: “Romy and I were friends with Sonny in high school. Then Romy started a relationship with Jordi, Sonny’s brother. They are also identical twins.”
Romy: “We went out with a group of friends, some of them stayed with us afterwards. Jordan was one of them. That night we kissed and had a relationship. I was sixteen then. A year later, Lonneke became involved with Sonny.”
Lonneke: “His relationship ended, and after another night out, sparks flew with us too. Then I had to tell Romy. I found that difficult. I was afraid she would think it was weird that I was dating her boyfriend’s twin brother. It’s also a bit strange. We would then have the same in-laws and then we would have everything together again. But Romy immediately liked it.”
Romy: “Yes, of course.”
Lonneke: “Sonny and Jordi have a different character. Jordi suits Romy well, Sonny suits me well. They also have a close twin bond, so they understand us well. They don’t think it’s weird that we text and call all day. We call at least twice a day, but usually more often. We live five minutes by bike from each other, we see each other every other day. And if we just leave each other…”
Romy: “… we’ll call again, haha.”

The party cried

Lonneke: “Last June we were asked to marry you. It was super fun. Our parents have a summer house in Spain, where we also go regularly. The boys had already asked our parents for our hand in marriage. They wanted to propose to us in Spain, and asked our parents if they would help set something up.
Then at some point our parents texted that they had won a VIP night for four people at our favorite restaurant with a special act. Unfortunately, they had to go home again, so we were allowed to go. Before the main course, a singer came to our table to sing a love song. Romy and I didn’t notice anything. Not even when the owner came our way with a box. Only when the boys suddenly stood up did we look at each other. When they fell to their knees at the same time, everyone in the restaurant clapped.”
Romy: “I usually never cry, but then I cried a little.”
Lonneke: “We were very lucky with Sonny and Jordi.”

Special day

Romy: “We got married in August. Together, yes. I don’t think we really talked about it, we just started planning. We agreed that it was a special day and that we should both have our own moment .”
Lonneke: “There are always two of us, I didn’t want to be in the spotlight alone. So it was natural for us to get married together.”
Romy: “We both made separate agreements to choose our wedding dress, we didn’t want to wear the same dress. We also gave the speeches on our wedding day separately and of course yes. The boys didn’t want to wear the same thing either. Our clothes matched.”

Future dreams

Lonneke: “After the wedding, the four of us went on holiday. To Spain, where we were proposed. We went out and had dinner at that restaurant. Next year we are going on a honeymoon to Africa. Yes, we are also going on a honeymoon. It’s great to go on vacation together. We like to lie in the sun and the boys are very active. Otherwise, we have to go along every time, haha.”
Romy: “It is our dream to build a house together and then each live in their own part. But with a common room and a common garden.”
Lonneke: “Do we also want children? Um… yeah.”
Romy: “Not yet, you know. You don’t have anything to say, but it would be nice if they were a little close in age.”
Lonneke: “That they were born on the same day, for example, haha…”
Romy: “… and that they can play together in our shared garden.”

Text: Ella Mae Wester
Photo: Ruud Hoornstra
Make-up: Lisette Verhoofstad.

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