“Our children aged 5 and 9 receive the same amount in pocket money”

Renée has been giving her two sons pocket money for a few years now. And against everyone’s advice, they both get the same amount. She explains why.

I did something stubborn. Something opposite. I did not follow Nibud’s advice. Yeah, that’s living on the edge, right? Nibud advises giving pocket money to children aged 6 and over. You will also find a nice table on their website with which amount is appropriate at which age. If you want to stick to their rules (or have some guidance), check out what they write about pocket money here.

Richer every Saturday

Pocket money is a thing with us. Our oldest, 9-year-old Cooper, has had it for two years now. First, too irregular in the form of coins, for his wallet. We often forgot and it didn’t work. Therefore, we have now opened an account for him, into which we (automatically) deposit € 1.50 every week. He knows that every Saturday he gets a little richer. Don’t know if Nibud thinks it’s a good idea to put that money in his account instead of giving it in cash. It seemed like a good idea to me, because digital money is the future. Of course, coins and notes give more feeling to the money, but he has to learn to have that feeling with money in his account as well. I don’t think he will be able to pay for groceries with cash at age 30.

The adult world

Besides our oldest son, we have another little guy walking around. Bowie is five years old, but smart for his age. It’s also because of the older brother. As a younger brother, he naturally wants everything he has and experiences. Also to the playground itself, also his A diploma, also playing with the big boys. So yes, he wanted pocket money too. Not that he asked anyway. When his older brother asked how much he had in his account now, he got curious when we logged into the app. They are nice to each other and discuss very sweetly what to buy with the money. It felt all the more unfair that Bowie didn’t get pocket money every week.

It is often the case in the adult world that you get more money when you get older. I think it’s a crazy concept. This presupposes that as you get older, you also get better at your work. Sometimes it is, often enough it isn’t. Why should the 55-year-old employee, who may not dabble in new technology and prefers to keep doing things the way he’s always done them, be paid more than the 30-year-old employee who is at the forefront of change and have an eye for the future of the company? Not that every older worker is like that, mind you! And not all 30-year-olds are more valuable to the company either. Not at all. I just want to say that age doesn’t matter much.

Children from their mother

I come from an entrepreneurial family. My father started as an onion farmer and later traded in sunflowers grown in France and Spain. At home I learned that age had nothing to do with earnings. How you performed, your creativity, strength to innovate, your determination and so on. These were factors that ultimately determined whether you earned a little, a lot, or somewhere in between. And I want to pass that on to my children. That effort determines (to a large extent) whether and how much you earn. That you yourself have a role in it and that you sit and wait until you get older, not the way to go is. Engagement rather than passivity.

So our 5-year-old son also gets pocket money. Every Saturday € 1.50 automatically deposited into his account. He can decide for himself what he uses it for. He has yet to spend a euro and follows his brother in this. If he comes up with an idea for a toy or game to buy, he’s on board right away. They now understand that they have twice as much money together. They also understand that games on the Marktplaats are a few cents cheaper and that you can then buy some of the money you have saved together! They are still their mother’s children, aren’t they?

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